Shut The Front Door

There’s a question I keep coming back to.

Not just in my work - in my own life.

Would you make the same decisions if no one else ever found out?

It came to me recently while driving.
Not in anything new or attention-grabbing - just a car that felt right to me.
Not because of what it said about me.
But because of what it didn’t have to say at all.

It got me thinking about the decisions we make - especially the ones that are large, visible, and expensive.

The kind that look rational on the surface, but underneath, carry layers of identity, self-image, expectation.

Take property.

You’d be surprised how many smart, thoughtful, experienced people find themselves suddenly unsure when it comes to making that decision.

Not because they lack options.
But because the deeper motives haven’t been fully explored.

• What is this move really about?
  

• What part of your life are you trying to change - or preserve?
  

• Are you choosing the home... or the story that comes with it?
  

We talk a lot about space.
But not enough about alignment.

Space can be measured in square feet.
Alignment requires something harder to quantify - but far more powerful when you find it.

I’ve come to believe that clarity doesn’t come from more information.
It comes from asking different questions.

The kind that don’t appear on property portals.
And don’t show up in brochures.

I don’t have answers for everyone.
But I have questions. And often, those are what open everything up.

So - this week - I’ll leave you with just one:

If no one knew you’d moved… if no one saw the address, the façade, the kitchen, the view…
Would you still choose it?

That might be the most honest starting point of all.

And occasionally, for those exploring these questions more deeply,
there’s a space I hold offline - quietly, by invitation - called The Gathering Collective.

But more on that another time.